1. Don't buy sleeveless dresses or shirts. Just don't okay?
2. Drinking too much wine will cause me to wake up in the middle of the night with fierce regretskys. Sometimes it's worth it but not very often.
3. I use to be attracted to friends and romantic partners if they were funny, smart and kind. When I changed it to kind, smart and funny my life improved.
4.I must always lookout for mindlessly forgetting that I am a feminist.
"Being told that you were born evil and need to constantly strive to be a better Christian and human all the time can leave you feeling off-balance and unsure of yourself. I spent most of my childhood and adolescent years trying to tamp down my real personality so I didn’t get in trouble at church. As a result, I’m quick to assume that my natural inclinations are wrong and that I would be “better” if I could change two or five or one hundred things about myself."
Love this! And this piece as a whole. You've inspired me to start a "things I know about myself" list :))
I love this list. I had one like this for myself in my twenties based solely on foods that made me feel sick (but I continued to eat because ‘maybe not this time!’). I’m putting this on my to-do for the new year, thank you 😊 But number one will def be ‘You always need at least 7 hours sleep. No amount of life hacking will change this. Go to bed earlier, you goose’
1. It's not going to be just one glass of Sauvignon Blanc, honey
2. No, a portion is not whatever it came in.
3. No, you do not need anything with ruffles, feathers, sequins, epaulettes, buttons made of glass paste in the form of camellias, poufs or any other such thing, no matter how fabulous it may be. You really don't need much at all.
In bio-energetics it's never just a thrown back. In fact there's a lot of scoffing about whether that's even possible. Obviously to the person experiencing it that's crazy. But it is interesting that there would be a loss, then the injury then the revelation that it's OK to be you.
I can’t wait to write about this tomorrow morning. That whole paper planner thing! Right there with you. I’m good through about February and then it falls apart.
The one thing I keep thinking about myself is I'm going to wake up and get back to yoga. I use to practice all the time. I miss it. But each day passes, and I keep not doing it.
I really appreciate your observations. I call it “fantasy Sandy” and “real Sandy”. Fantasy Sandy is amazingly disciplined and improves herself through yoga, swimming, Masterclass lessons, and a daily practice of language instruction. She watches The Great Courses and reads all the books she buys. Real Sandy is a huge disappointment, but we’re making peace with her.
Oh this is just glorious! I’m loving reading everyone’s comments - thank you Amy for starting this. I too am sorry for your loss, I hope you have space to grieve.
For me I think the following:
I am not a football supporter. I go not have it in me to support one team over another but I do enjoy a good game.
I’m sensitive.
I take rejection easily and handle it badly.
I have no time, space or energy for angry people.
Smiling makes me feel better about everything.
I love a city and I love the countryside too, the two are not exclusive.
I love to make bread bread but I’m mostly rubbish at it.
The ex-New Yorker in me wants to wear black all the time. In reality, it makes my Irish pallor look ghoulish. I look better in color even if it makes me feel silly.
I’m very susceptible to the siren’s call of supplements and skincare. I have a full pantry of lost dreams. I do not need more of either. Ever.
I don’t like any workout that has heart thumping bass in the background or a bro vibe.
My husband’s love languages are touch and focused attention. When I slow down and listen intently and affectionately to him, we are both happier!
When my kids are out late, I sleep with one eye open and will be tired the next day. Plan accordingly.
If I eat in front of my laptop I never truly enjoy the meal.
Wait 24 hours before saying yes to anything: I relate and great advice
Things I Know About Myself on my 73rd birthday
1. Don't buy sleeveless dresses or shirts. Just don't okay?
2. Drinking too much wine will cause me to wake up in the middle of the night with fierce regretskys. Sometimes it's worth it but not very often.
3. I use to be attracted to friends and romantic partners if they were funny, smart and kind. When I changed it to kind, smart and funny my life improved.
4.I must always lookout for mindlessly forgetting that I am a feminist.
"Being told that you were born evil and need to constantly strive to be a better Christian and human all the time can leave you feeling off-balance and unsure of yourself. I spent most of my childhood and adolescent years trying to tamp down my real personality so I didn’t get in trouble at church. As a result, I’m quick to assume that my natural inclinations are wrong and that I would be “better” if I could change two or five or one hundred things about myself."
Love this! And this piece as a whole. You've inspired me to start a "things I know about myself" list :))
I love this list. I had one like this for myself in my twenties based solely on foods that made me feel sick (but I continued to eat because ‘maybe not this time!’). I’m putting this on my to-do for the new year, thank you 😊 But number one will def be ‘You always need at least 7 hours sleep. No amount of life hacking will change this. Go to bed earlier, you goose’
1. It's not going to be just one glass of Sauvignon Blanc, honey
2. No, a portion is not whatever it came in.
3. No, you do not need anything with ruffles, feathers, sequins, epaulettes, buttons made of glass paste in the form of camellias, poufs or any other such thing, no matter how fabulous it may be. You really don't need much at all.
4. You can't park there. You cannot.
The first post of yours I've read, and I'm hooked. What a fabulous topic. It's certainly caught my imagination and I can't wait to try this myself.
The bra one 100% applies to me too 🤣
In bio-energetics it's never just a thrown back. In fact there's a lot of scoffing about whether that's even possible. Obviously to the person experiencing it that's crazy. But it is interesting that there would be a loss, then the injury then the revelation that it's OK to be you.
Things I Know About Myself:
1. I love having painted nails
2. Dancing is fun and my favorite type of movement
3. I have sensitive skin and it’s best to keep it simple and always, always, always use sun screen
4. I feel better when I write or do something creative
5. 30 minutes of alone time in the morning sets me up for success
I can’t wait to write about this tomorrow morning. That whole paper planner thing! Right there with you. I’m good through about February and then it falls apart.
The one thing I keep thinking about myself is I'm going to wake up and get back to yoga. I use to practice all the time. I miss it. But each day passes, and I keep not doing it.
I really appreciate your observations. I call it “fantasy Sandy” and “real Sandy”. Fantasy Sandy is amazingly disciplined and improves herself through yoga, swimming, Masterclass lessons, and a daily practice of language instruction. She watches The Great Courses and reads all the books she buys. Real Sandy is a huge disappointment, but we’re making peace with her.
Oh this is just glorious! I’m loving reading everyone’s comments - thank you Amy for starting this. I too am sorry for your loss, I hope you have space to grieve.
For me I think the following:
I am not a football supporter. I go not have it in me to support one team over another but I do enjoy a good game.
I’m sensitive.
I take rejection easily and handle it badly.
I have no time, space or energy for angry people.
Smiling makes me feel better about everything.
I love a city and I love the countryside too, the two are not exclusive.
I love to make bread bread but I’m mostly rubbish at it.
Things I know about myself:
1. Making it off-limits is the best way for me to crave it voraciously
2. More than 3 “to do”s daily & none will get done
3. Paper lists that get checked; get done
4. Good cup of tea is more soothing than entire box of cookies/candies/???
5. Placating my inner 4 year old is not always bad
The ex-New Yorker in me wants to wear black all the time. In reality, it makes my Irish pallor look ghoulish. I look better in color even if it makes me feel silly.
I’m very susceptible to the siren’s call of supplements and skincare. I have a full pantry of lost dreams. I do not need more of either. Ever.
I don’t like any workout that has heart thumping bass in the background or a bro vibe.
My husband’s love languages are touch and focused attention. When I slow down and listen intently and affectionately to him, we are both happier!
When my kids are out late, I sleep with one eye open and will be tired the next day. Plan accordingly.
If I eat in front of my laptop I never truly enjoy the meal.
Love this exercise. Thank you for sharing it. 🤍
Things I Know About Myself
- I'm a starter more than I finish things (like tv shows)
- I prefer fiction over nonfiction
- never buy bright colors - I just don't like them on me
- I almost never regret spending money on tea, books, or candles
- I am susceptible to buying supplements and skincare I don't need and won't use
- Reassurance in relationships helps me feel secure
- I have to be proactive in being optimistic (instead of defaulting to believing things won't work out)